Everyone deserves to feel safe and respected at work. But what if your manager or a coworker repeatedly crosses boundaries and then brushes it off as a joke? This kind of behavior could create an unhealthy work environment. If the “accidental” behavior does not stop, it can cause you mental stress. So, what should you do if you are in the receiving line of inappropriate behavior?

When “accidents” are not accidents anymore

You might dismiss a one-time inappropriate touch or offhand remark as a mistake. However, if such actions become a pattern, they cannot be “accidental” anymore. Examples of this behavior include repeatedly:

• Lingering too close to you
• Brushing against you
• Sending suggestive messages
• Commenting on your appearance

If these actions become persistent, it may signal a deeper issue. Even if that person accuses you of being too sensitive or says they did not mean to do it, do not ignore it. Your comfort and perception matters. 

Trust your instinct and set boundaries

Even if the person making you uncomfortable is your manager, let them know. If they make suggestive remarks, tell them you do not appreciate their comments. You have the right to set clear boundaries. Speaking up lets that person know you do not tolerate inappropriate behavior and helps create a record that you have addressed the issue.

Document everything

When a coworker or manager continues with their offensive behavior, document each incident. Make a written account of:

• What happened
• When it happened
• Where it happened
• What was said
• Who was present

Patterns matter, especially if someone claims that their actions are accidental. These records could reinforce your claim if you choose to report to HR or take legal action.

Know when to report

If the person continues their toxic behavior after you have set boundaries, it may be time to report it. If you feel unsafe to speak up, consider reporting it to HR or a trusted manager.

But what if the person crossing the line is your supervisor? You can go directly to HR or a higher-level manager. Most companies have a procedure for handling misconduct. You may also file a complaint with the local human rights agency. State and federal laws protect you from a hostile or unsafe work environment.

You do not have to tolerate it

You do not have to put up with repeated “accidental” behavior that makes you feel disrespected. Hold the person making you uncomfortable accountable for their actions, especially if they continue despite setting clear boundaries. If you are dealing with this toxic pattern at work, help is available—and you have the right to take action.